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  • Apr. 10th, 2008 at 2:27 AM
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I feel the need to do a biiiiig friends cut as i simply can't keep up with my flist these days.

I write about my life & my thoughts on here and i feel it's a place for dialogue, not just for having big friends lists to look popular. If i find myself skipping your entires all the time (or you always skip mine) then i think it's dishonest to pretend we're 'friends'. So unless we've actually connected on here or we know each other in the real world you may get cut. If you feel like we haven't really connected on here (and commenting isn't necessarily connection) and you'd still like to be friends please let me know now or after i've cut you and i either won't cut you or i'll re-add you.

I hope no-one feels offended by this, it's just that i can't keep up with everything that i'd like to and i'd rather have honesty, integrity and quality over quantity. In saying all that i'm pretty likely to keep you if i know you in real life or we communicate via other means as well (e-mail, the phone, snail-mail).

Oh and anyone who has added me without commenting first please simply introduce yourself and i'll probably add you back :).

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[info]eumelia wrote:
Apr. 9th, 2008 04:37 pm (UTC)
You're keeping me, right?

I *heart* you so!

Vegan Cookie? *kitty eyes* ^_^
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[info]bitter_moss wrote:
Apr. 9th, 2008 04:46 pm (UTC)
I heart you too!
Aw, but of course i'm keeping you :). I think you're awesome and yours is definitely one of the more interesting & varied ljs that i read :).

*gratefully accepts cookie* insomnia makes Kat's hungry nomnomnom
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[info]eumelia wrote:
Apr. 9th, 2008 04:49 pm (UTC)
No, you're Awesome!
Oh, I'm blushing... go on! No stop, stop, I can't handle compliments.
I'm just gonna keep *hearting* you and go eat my own sesame biscuits my mom brought home, nummy.

Gosh, all this talk of food does make one quite hungry :)
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[info]opheliaheart wrote:
Apr. 9th, 2008 05:14 pm (UTC)
keeep me pleaseee
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[info]bitter_moss wrote:
Apr. 9th, 2008 05:17 pm (UTC)
I'm keeping you of course :). Veg*n points +1 ;).
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[info]cherrystreet021 wrote:
Apr. 9th, 2008 05:03 pm (UTC)
i don't know you in the physical. But I always enjoy your posts!
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[info]bitter_moss wrote:
Apr. 9th, 2008 05:05 pm (UTC)
Thanks, and you survived the scythe anyway (i keep people around for a while as i've had quite a few slow-burn-into uber close friendships happen on lj :). Plus you have bonus vegan points :D).
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[info]cherrystreet021 wrote:
Apr. 9th, 2008 08:57 pm (UTC)
yeah bonus vegan points!!!
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[info]elaine_today wrote:
Apr. 9th, 2008 06:04 pm (UTC)
I've only done one cut the whole time I've been on LJ...Its so hard because I always feel it will come across as though I'm mean even though its really a necessity sometimes. I'm not thinking that I'm getting cut, but I did want you to know that even though I haven't been commenting, I have been reading a lot of your posts when I have the chance. Life has made me quiet the past few months. I've just needed silence inside most of the time to heal and grow. I know you understand the effects emotions can have on people, so I feel like you understand the need for solitude.
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[info]bitter_moss wrote:
Apr. 12th, 2008 06:47 am (UTC)
I do understand, and am definitely keeping you around :).
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[info]jilder wrote:
Apr. 9th, 2008 06:07 pm (UTC)
It won't kill me if I get cut. Generally I don't take these things personally. So long as I get to keep you on my flist, o course.
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[info]aesiron wrote:
Apr. 9th, 2008 06:50 pm (UTC)
Whew. Close call.
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[info]bitter_moss wrote:
Apr. 12th, 2008 06:48 am (UTC)
:p
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[info]drjon wrote:
Apr. 9th, 2008 09:49 pm (UTC)
http://drjon.livejournal.com/927035.html#cutid1 may also be an option.
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[info]bitter_moss wrote:
Apr. 15th, 2008 10:33 am (UTC)
I have considered that, but it feels dishonest. Thanks for the thought tho :).
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[info]fadeintodawn wrote:
Apr. 10th, 2008 01:55 am (UTC)
I would love to stay on your list since I really do enjoy reading and thinking about your posts, but I know we don't communicate with each other with huge frequency, so I'd be understanding if I got cut.
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[info]bitter_moss wrote:
Apr. 15th, 2008 10:34 am (UTC)
Kept, i definitely enjoy hearing about your life & thoughts :).
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[info]fadeintodawn wrote:
Apr. 15th, 2008 01:48 pm (UTC)
Thanks!
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[info]katrina_splat wrote:
Apr. 10th, 2008 02:53 am (UTC)
I like reading your stuff too :) yay not cut! :P.

I've found a good way to cut down is to create filters, one for close friends you'd tell personal stuff to, one for online only friends you can rant about the close friends to, one for communities...then you can view each group of friends page separately. :)
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[info]bitter_moss wrote:
Apr. 15th, 2008 10:35 am (UTC)
:)
I do use filters when i have fallen behind for whatever reason, but i wouldn't want to use them all the time as i'd feel bad about having someone on my flist who i never read y'know?
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[info]ilikerivers wrote:
Apr. 10th, 2008 04:40 am (UTC)
Thanks for keeping me :D
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[info]bitter_moss wrote:
Apr. 15th, 2008 10:36 am (UTC)
You're welcome! I feel we've definitely talked when we're able and i understand you taking a break from communications for the most atm. Rest-up and i look forward to 'talking' when you're feeling better :).
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[info]dahliablue wrote:
Apr. 10th, 2008 05:43 am (UTC)
I know I don't comment a lot, but I do find your posts engaging, fascinating and truly genuine (sometimes a rarity on LJ!). I probably should say that more often, though.
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[info]bitter_moss wrote:
Apr. 15th, 2008 10:37 am (UTC)
Aw, shucks. Thanks so much! And i'm definitely keeping you, i enjoy your posts and think you're a pretty great person ♥
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[info]greenglowgrrl wrote:
Apr. 10th, 2008 08:13 am (UTC)
You know, theres a distinct advantage to being cut. You can meet at coffee and someone can say 'So what have you been doing" rather than "oh yeah I read that already.

I know I write long entries. I'm not offended if they are not read. People don't have to subscribe to me for me to consider them friends. :)
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[info]bitter_moss wrote:
Apr. 15th, 2008 10:39 am (UTC)
Yeah i agree! I often forget that not everyone i know reads my lj and i assume i have told them important news, or invited them to something when i haven't.
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[info]sidhe_aingeal wrote:
Apr. 10th, 2008 09:05 am (UTC)
I hope I get to stay!
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[info]bitter_moss wrote:
Apr. 15th, 2008 10:50 am (UTC)
Of course :)!
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[info]alwen7 wrote:
Apr. 10th, 2008 08:03 pm (UTC)
ooohhh...please keep me...please?
:)
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[info]bitter_moss wrote:
Apr. 15th, 2008 10:41 am (UTC)
Of course! :)
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[info]alwen7 wrote:
Apr. 15th, 2008 05:28 pm (UTC)
:)))
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[info]mycreativelife wrote:
Apr. 14th, 2008 04:07 pm (UTC)

I completely understand. I have a much shorter friend list than you and sometimes I feel like I hardly manage to keep up with mine *lol* But I do enjoy reading your posts, I'm just lousy at communicating. But that's just me :)
Byt he way, what's up with "I am legend"? Are we still waiting for someone reading the book or...? Don't say I've missed it somehow? *horror* I can't have been that absent in my mind can I? :P
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[info]bitter_moss wrote:
Apr. 15th, 2008 10:43 am (UTC)
I understand you're not online a lot but you comment when you can and i enjoy your posts so i'm definitely keeping you :).

Yeah we were waiting for someone but i finished it ages ago and got sick of all the uming and ahhing so i didn't bother with saying anything further for a while. Shall i just make a post in [info]reading_cottage & my lj and just say - those who have read & watched we're discussing it here and now and sorry if you haven't read it yet...?!
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[info]mycreativelife wrote:
Apr. 15th, 2008 12:02 pm (UTC)

That's not entirely true to be honest. I'm online a lot but I'm online mostly through my business (lj user="beadsbyida") at the moment. And after doing all that I'm usually too tired to focus on my more private side :)Right now I'm so sick and tired of sitting in front of the computer after a whole week of working with pictures. I'm not a good computer person and I could never have a full time office job.

I'm glad you enjoy my posts though :)

Yeah, just go ahead an post about "I am Legend". Can you wait until next week though? I'll be going away for a long weekend and I'd hate to miss it, only to post my comment days afterwards. Anytime from monday is good for me :)
Of course if you rather do it straight away just do it. I just pop in with my words later...
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